Control is a funny concept.  I have a big problem with needing to control my own life.  I have no need however to control other peoples', unless they are directly impacting on mine.  So when someone is staying in my house, I do get the urge to tell them what they can and can't do, though I know it's not right, so I try to keep it to a minimum.  That's because I genuinely find it extremely stressful to have people moving things around in my personal environment, and always have done, even as a toddler.  I have no desire to tell other people what to do in their own lives though.  As a result, my life is well ordered, and as I'm willing to laugh at myself about my obsessions, I have managed to maintain some truly wonderful friends.  I've come to realise that the people who find it necessary to control other people when it has no impact on them directly, are usually the same people who have no control over their own lives, and more often than not, are unhappy with their own lives.  I attract people who want to push their own screwed up views onto me, but in the past few years, I have let go of most of them, and more importantly, haven't taken on any new ones.  I reckon that this means that I'm happy with who I am, happy with my life, and over the years will become less and less affected by those who seem to want to change me.