It wold appear that my life today is resembling some kind of normality which is awesome, no dramas, no cravings, no emotional relapses and no stress of any kind. If anything, a recent family breakdown in communications had lead to some clarity and no confusement.
I have a good support system (quality not quantity) and the recent break down in communication with a certain family member has clarified that i will no longer be banging my head against the wall, while i wait/expect acknowledgment, recognition and understanding from any one in my family, now i simply rely on the support system i have to obtain acknowledgment, recognition and understanding, who might i add are able to provide in abundance.
Being able to accept my family for who and what they are has released the burden and pressure of trying to get them to accept me for who and what i am, if the 46 years i have shared with them is proving fruitless, then i dare say that the next 46 years will prove fruitless to.
Radical acceptance, realisation and the lowering of expectations are the three concepts that i will adhere to and put in to practice, as they seem to be of great benefit to me at the moment.
Since the achievement of grasping this concept i no longer feel at the merci of my family. We all no that no one can supply us with more stress than our own family, so being able to separate them from my emotional needs or support will take away my need to turn to them for any kind of validation, as the lack of validation can lead me in to dark place, a dark place in which i will no longer be entering.
Day 137 of OU studies
It wold appear that my life today is resembling some kind of normality which is awesome, no dramas, no cravings, no emotional relapses and no stress of any kind. If anything, a recent family breakdown in communications had lead to some clarity and no confusement.
I have a good support system (quality not quantity) and the recent break down in communication with a certain family member has clarified that i will no longer be banging my head against the wall, while i wait/expect acknowledgment, recognition and understanding from any one in my family, now i simply rely on the support system i have to obtain acknowledgment, recognition and understanding, who might i add are able to provide in abundance.
Being able to accept my family for who and what they are has released the burden and pressure of trying to get them to accept me for who and what i am, if the 46 years i have shared with them is proving fruitless, then i dare say that the next 46 years will prove fruitless to.
Radical acceptance, realisation and the lowering of expectations are the three concepts that i will adhere to and put in to practice, as they seem to be of great benefit to me at the moment.
Since the achievement of grasping this concept i no longer feel at the merci of my family. We all no that no one can supply us with more stress than our own family, so being able to separate them from my emotional needs or support will take away my need to turn to them for any kind of validation, as the lack of validation can lead me in to dark place, a dark place in which i will no longer be entering.
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