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I do love a weekend, the only days of the week where i actively look for naff all to do and not feel bad for it, any slower and i'll be going backwards, the days of trying to keep busy or constentley looking for something to do are long gone. I remember asking people what are they up to over the weekend and i could almost sense shame as they told me "oh i'm not up to anything", "i have no thing to do", and me being the analyser that i am, i confront them with my observation in order to understand.

At first, if its someone i am not that common with, people are shocked and a little defensive at why i have seemed to ask a bizarre questions, once i explain my psychology they seem a little more keen to answer, although they are always hesitant to answer, almost as if they think it's a trick question or they refuse to acknowledge my observations, claiming that, how on earth could i try to think that i know about them. It's an interesting interaction but i stick with it, eventually and i mean eventually, a regular conversation about my observations are able to take place. 

Every time i have found myself in this position, every reaction is the same, with relatively new people i know and when i ask people i am more familiar with, again, every reaction differs to above mentioned, although they are exactly the same as each other.

Out of the two groups, all are defensive at first, the group i barely know are a little more defensive and it takes a little longer to be able to conversate regularly about my observational question. The group that i am more familiar with, know what i am i like so they try to take part the best they can, some can't be bothered and tell me "go away with your psycho babble, your doing my nut in" as it is a running joke that i am always observing them and coming up with some kind of analytical experiment that drives them nuts, haha.

A common theme among all who i dragged in to my games and who were willing to answer, is that people feel compelled to come across active and busy, as they perceive an active and busy life is a more interesting life that will attract a response which will help that person to feel connected and will help that person to feel better about themselves, as a busy life, talking about what someone has or where someone has been, is more interesting and diverts from a more primitive interaction. 

As opposed to having no thing to say to each other because someone has chosen to do no thing and perceives themselves to be boring or feel they will come across as boring, uninteresting and disconnected, as though they feel compelled to talk for talking sake and avoid an uncomfortable silence, which, when we bare in mind only 7 percent (or thereabouts) of human interaction is verbal, why is so much emphasis, importance and pressure put on what we choose, or what we choose not to say to each other. 

I feel i have just answered my question and then asked the question again, welcome to the workings of my mind. I understand more now why i chose to study Social Science.

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