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Listening to Radio 4's Women's Hour the topic catfishing was discussed .  The discussion centred around a  fictional story  based on true events called , 'Sweet Bobbie' however behind the façade it discussed the lengths a person   went to desecrate another persons   life and what was more disturbing  the perpetrator was a family member.

Although l have heard about the online scams that had been perpetrated by  random con men and women what l found disturbing is the thought of a family member using this guise for whatever reason to humiliate and  ruin someone's life. What l also found disturbing   was the lengths this person went to deceive and ruin the other family members life.   The discussion went on to explain  although this family member used extreme methods, it was not so unusual to catfish relatives.  

What can be the benefit for the perpetrator ? Is it  the thought that the person would be too humiliated to talk about it ? Could it be the thought of the power and control they can have over that other family member ? Jealousy ?

Ultimately  this leads to the question of how does that kind of abuse benefit anyone?

For the victim the psychological impact can be devastating culminating in trust issues with family, friends and the wider circle . For the perpetrator maybe the thought that their victim could speak out  could also have damaging  implications psychologically . 

For a moment of madness, be it for a laugh or spite  lives are ruined in one way or another and just like throwing a stone into the water  it ripples out into all parts of peoples lives.

Surely just like gas lighting this is abuse and should be criminalised. In my opinion by criminalizing this kind of abuse, it would make people think twice and prevent many other lives and families being ruined through a moment of  the perpetrators  heightened state of euphoria. 

Woman's Hour - 10/12/2021 - BBC Sounds (35.54 - 51.22)

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