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Speaking rashly is like a piercing sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Proverbs 12:18

The Music We Hear

Do you remember my recent post, Which Traveller Are You? (see reference below).

I was thinking about that recently while reminiscing about a period of my life in Norway. We had become friendly with a Christian family who lived in Sandnes, just outside Stavanger.

One day, I gave their youngest daughter a tape of some music. About a month later, her mother told me that she loved it so much that she would fall asleep listening to it every night.

I was delighted. Despite the difference in our generations, it seemed I had something to offer that she genuinely enjoyed. It was a small thing, perhaps, but a rather pleasing discovery.

Yet I also remember giving exactly the same music to another family. Their response was quite different. A few days later, they came back and mocked my choice, describing the music as "depressing".

The same music, but two very different reactions!

It set me thinking about the people we meet along life's journey. Some seem to see the glass half full, while others see it half empty. Some find beauty in things that others find melancholy. What one person finds comforting; another may find quite the opposite.

I wonder how much of this has to do with the way we look at life. We each bring our own experiences, feelings and expectations to what we encounter. Perhaps we don't always see things quite as they are, but partly through the lens of who we are.

As I sit making notes in my notebook, I find myself wondering whether there is a Bible verse that speaks to this aspect of being human, and of approaching life in a godly way.

One that comes to mind is Philippians 4:8, where Paul encourages us to dwell on whatever is true, honest, just, pure, lovely and worthy of praise.

Perhaps there is something important in that advice. We cannot always determine how others will receive what we share, but we can choose the spirit in which we offer it. We can learn to recognise goodness and beauty, even where others might not see them.

And I find myself thinking again about that young Norwegian girl.

She will probably have children of her own by now. I wonder whether they, too, sometimes fall asleep to gentle songs.

Perhaps that little gift of music became part of a memory she carried into her adult life. I shall never know, of course, but it is a pleasant thought.

It reminds me that we don't always know what becomes of the little things we give to others. A kind word, a thoughtful gesture, a piece of music. They may travel further than we imagine.

And perhaps that, too, is part of the beauty of being human.

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Stepping Out of Plato's Cave

It happens like this, a video pops up — Intolerance, political drama, social injustice, indoctrination or whatever. It's all there like the Woolworth's pick 'n' mix counter, inviting you to taste. You succumb. Minutes later,  feeling that sense of outrage. Then another video appears. And another. Hours pass, and you’re still there, eyes fixed, brain buzzing like a bees hive with righteous indignation, unable to pull away from this hobbit cave.

You finally switch off, but your mind doesn’t. The anger and fear linger, replaying in your thoughts like a bad song on repeat. Sleep becomes difficult. Even in the morning, the heaviness hasn’t lifted. You feel more irritable but don't know why. 

Emotional contagion the psychologists call it. When we constantly consume content designed to provoke outrage, the brain’s stress systems fire repeatedly like a faulty engine. Cortisol, the stress hormone, stays elevated. Our nervous system is on high alert as if the danger is in the room with us. Over time, this erodes mood, memory, and even physical health. The same happens with soap operas or high-tension dramas. They may not be political, but they keep the mind braced on fight or flight mode.

The truth is, we were not meant to live in this  constant state of agitation. We need periods of calm, of forest bathing, of relaxation for our thoughts to settle and our emotions to reset. But outrage-driven media hijacks the brain’s reward system, giving us little hits of dopamine every time we click for the next shocking reveal. It’s a loop that leaves us exhausted yet craving more. We are addicted.

But there are other implications. I was reading up on the philosophy of Plato's Cave; it's one of the big players in philosophy courses. Plato warned us about this side of our nature long before the age of social media.

In his allegory of the cave, prisoners are chained underground, forced to watch shadows flicker on a wall. They believe these shadows are reality because it’s all they’ve ever seen. Today, we sit in a different kind of cave. The assumed reality  isn’t from firelight but from out computer screens. The shadows are videos curated by algorithms, designed to feed us only what will keep us watching.

Like Plato’s prisoners, we can mistake this narrow stream of images for the whole of reality. We get a distorted view of what is truth; it's like being in the Mad Hatter's Tea Party. We come to believe the distorted reality that the Mad Hatter and the March Hare are trapped in six-o'clock. And, like the prisoners who resist leaving the cave, part of us fears stepping away. After all, what if the world outside feels less thrilling, loveless, worrying?

But freedom comes when we use our critical thinking and turn away from the shadows and walk toward the light, when we choose real conversations over virtual, reflection over theatrical presentations . The sunlit world, a walk in nature, a conversation with a stranger may not give us the same jolt of adrenaline, but it gives something better. Besides, it reduces those cortisone levels that have us on hyper alert 

The most radical thing you can do is close the laptop, step outside, and remember that the world is more than the shadows dancing on your screen.

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you." Philippians 4:8 BSB.