Its a two for one today, mainly because this post should been done this week and the last post should have been done last week but the our internet company decided to forget about us.
So this is the last topic in this and its about gender and sexuality, I’m going to add relationships in as well just to give a fuller picture. Word of warning this is going to get complicated really quick and its going to get odd very quickly. So you have been warned.
So I'm guessing anyone you is reading this knows about LGBT+, I know I have missed most but for the sake of simplicity, anyway if not L is Lesbian, G is Gay, B is Bisexual and T is Transgender and the + is for everyone else who comes under their banner. Here where it will get confusing. A lot of people with autism are LGBT+, but for most who aren’t we don’t have definitive gender. We can be seen as male, female, slightly feminine, slightly masculine, Male but very feminine- although not gay, Female but very masculine- although not a lesbian. Right I can hear people like that saying that seems normal so far what wrong with any of this? Those who are slightly or are very feminine but are male have either learned their sexuality from the wrong sex or they don’t understand what gender they are but know what they are anatomically. The same along the female side. For most people the gender and sexuality are in their brains who and what they are, for most of us nope. Okay lets put things into confusing matters. If you are still on board then lets see if this stumps you. A lot of people with autism and mainly Asperger’s can be heterosexual but we can have moments where we still look at the same sex and think that they are attractive.
I’m going to talk a bit about relationships again this one is odd. Lets go from the start. Asking someone out is hard, but most people with autism or Asperger’s thinks that they must know whom ever they maybe must be know they have autism/Asperger’s usually they flee by that point- my experiences anyway. Before any of that they have to make sure they can be trusted and that they don’t freak with any twitches or behaviours we have. So if they can be trusted, can deal with our behaviours and they know they have autism we try and make them friends or acquaintances from there we use our own scale of our friendship before asking. If no we try and keep them close if yes they we change are whole system for them. Within that we know that we may not know what we are and what we understand gender or sexuality. So we can be a bit confused. Then you have the quirks of each person, in my case I don’t like being touched or touching people, so you can see where the issues are and to top it as I keep saying I have limited emotions so if I can have any type of relationship it would be more like a close friendship then anything, which sounds a little sad but I don't really care I can mimic certain emotions so I try and make up for what I miss.
This is the last post for this seires. I will plan some more things like this I think I might do a seires about how we view the world. There will be some odd post on here from then but I’m going to mainly plan this.