"Society cares for the individual only so far as he is profitable."
- The Coming of Age, Beauvoir
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A friend at the weekend was out for a walk when two youths in quad bikes passed him and shouted, “Out the way yah specky old…!"
Excuse me for not finishing the sentence; their following words are too shameful to relate. Two things struck me about this scenario, my friend realised he is now old. And although there is nothing new about disrespect for the elderly, it demonstrates a society of people in some quarters that have lost their way and are without conscience. But what did we expect when parents and society have abandoned moral restraint. Who will be the role models for the younger generation?
In the golden years of life, when the hustle and bustle of youth and middle age have quieted, many older adults find themselves facing a new reality—one where the walls, quite literally, seem to close in around them. It's a time when the vibrant social tapestry that once coloured their days begins to fade into the background, leaving a stark, unnoticed, and often uncelebrated existence. This gradual retreat into the shadows isn't just confined to one's home but can happen anywhere—in church pews, community centres, and even within the bustling life of family gatherings.
Many elderly individuals often share a common, poignant grievance: the phone remains silent, and the days stretch on without a call from their children or loved ones. This isolation can be a profound source of sorrow and loneliness, making the twilight of life seem less like a chapter of relaxation and more like one of seclusion.
Yet, this doesn't have to be the narrative. Each of us holds the power to change this storyline and bring light into the lives of the elderly. We can choose to be the family they long for, the friend they miss, and the community they need. It begins with a simple, yet profoundly impactful act: engagement.
Imagine the difference a moment of your day could make if spent sharing a conversation with an older person. Consider the stories they have to tell, the experiences they can share, and the wisdom they're eager to impart. These are the threads that can weave new tapestries into their lives and rekindle the colours that once defined them. Taking an elder for a coffee or a meal out can be a simple gesture, but the significance it holds for them can be monumental. It's not just about the warmth of the drink but the warmth of the interaction, the feeling of being seen, valued, and loved.
Moreover, engaging with the elderly is not a one-sided affair. The benefits are beautifully reciprocal. In giving your time and attention, you are likely to find yourself enriched with newfound perspectives and insights that only years of experience can bestow. The emotional lift that accompanies these interactions is a testament to the profound human connection that sustains us at all stages of life.
This call to action is about more than combating loneliness; it's about reaffirming the dignity and worth of every individual, regardless of their age. In a society that often celebrates youth and productivity, it's crucial to remember that our elderly are reservoirs of history, knowledge, and life lessons that are invaluable to our cultural fabric.
Let us then make a conscious effort to reach out, to listen, and to embrace. Let's ensure that our elderly do not fade into the background but continue to be active, cherished members of our communities. By doing so, we not only uplift their spirits, but we also elevate our own, fostering a culture of care, respect, and mutual support.
So, the next time you pass by an elderly person, whether a familiar face or a new encounter, spare a thought, a moment, and perhaps a cup of coffee. In this simple way, we can all contribute to a kinder, more inclusive world where every stage of life is celebrated and revered. After all, one day, we too will hope for the same kindness and recognition in the autumn of our own lives.
Consider,
Pure and undefiled religion before our God and Father is this: to care for orphans and widows in their distress, and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. - James 1:26,27 (BSB).
