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Edited by Jim McCrory, Tuesday, 29 Oct 2024, 08:01

My little children let’s not love in word only, 

or with the tongue only, but in deed and truth.

                                                                                      —    I John 3:18



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Justified indignation—a “huff”—often arises when we feel overlooked, dismissed, or hurt, particularly by family and friends whose opinions matter most to us. It’s natural to retreat in frustration when we sense that our contributions, emotions, or boundaries aren’t valued. A huff signals, even indirectly, that something important has been missed. In close relationships, this can be especially painful. A family member’s offhand remark, a friend’s neglect, or the feeling of being undervalued in shared responsibilities can turn small incidents into deep-seated grievances.

But as the saying goes, “There are two sides to every story.” What seems like a needless huff may, in reality, be the last straw after repeated misunderstandings. Perhaps the friend didn’t know they’d hurt us, or the family member has struggles we haven’t seen. Realizing this perspective should soften our judgments. However, some people become trapped in a cycle of negativity, where each slight compounds into a narrative of constant offense, and they find it hard to lift themselves from this mindset. Left unchecked, this outlook can isolate them from the very people they want to feel close to, replacing connection with resentment.

Here, the guidance in Matthew 18 proves invaluable. When Jesus spoke of confronting someone directly with our grievances, he advocated for open and honest communication. This approach invites understanding rather than division, healing rather than bitterness. For example, rather than retreating into a huff over a friend’s neglect, we could express, kindly but clearly, how their actions impacted us. Such a conversation not only resolves misunderstandings but strengthens relationships through mutual respect and humility.

A huff may feel like a reclaiming of dignity, but if left to fester, it risks becoming a habitual barrier between us and those we love. Jesus’ teaching reminds us that our relationships thrive when we confront issues compassionately and avoid letting offense calcify into lasting bitterness. In the end, justified frustration should lead us to a place of growth, not resentment. By applying empathy and striving to understand each other’s perspectives, we build connections with family and friends based on respect, forgiveness, and compassion—the hallmarks of a truly fulfilling life together.



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