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Where Geese Cry South

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Sunday 5 October 2025 at 07:09

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Where Geese Cry South: On the Loss of a Son

I was out for a walk one night this week. Near where I live there’s a pleasant circular route that eventually takes me past the graveyard. It was dusk, and the high, plaintive squeaking of geese migrating south reminded me that the frost was creeping in.

Unexpectedly, I came across a woman sitting on a chair at her son’s grave. He died in a fatal accident earlier this year; he was just eighteen. I spent a few moments with her, offering a few words of empathy, yet feeling more inadequate than I have ever felt. How can I possibly understand — let alone comfort — a woman who has lost the child she once held to her breast?

As I walked on, the encounter stayed with me and sent my thoughts along a different path. I noticed the objects people leave on graves: golf balls, figurines, baby photos, small toys. I suppose it’s all about identity; the need to say, this is who they were. That’s why favourite music is so often played at funerals. Earlier this year, someone left a comment on my blog saying that two Runrig songs were to be played at his funeral.

I once read about an ancient grave discovered on a building site in the Czech Republic. A man lay buried there, and beside him was a puppet on a string. I often think about him and how he must have brought joy and laughter to children and adults alike, even if only for a short time in this challenging life. And I wonder: what would identify me?

When I was doing my MA in writing, a tutor once asked us to write about something that reflected our identity. For me, it was my writer’s notebook. It’s where I write about my feelings toward being human; the deepest way anyone will ever see into my soul. What you’re reading now is part of that. Like the man with the puppet on a string, I too try to entertain — though in an existential way — by focusing on what is positive and good about human nature. And I suppose, if you’re reading this, you’re walking with me on that path.

But my thoughts return to that woman sitting alone at her son’s grave. What comfort is there for her? I have lost loved ones, but I know that offering hope to someone whose wound is still fresh, especially the loss of a child,  rarely helps. They don’t want promises of future healing; they want comfort now.

The best thing, I think, is to invite the memories that still bring joy. Ask gentle questions: “What was your son like?” “What was his happiest moment as a child?” “What did you give him for his last birthday?” “What was his favourite toy?” “Was he kind?” Let the grieving parent linger in those precious memories.

“Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming when all who are in their graves will hear His voice.”
                                                           — John 5

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The Glasgow Necropolis Where A Silent City Awaits

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Friday 22 November 2024 at 11:51



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The Glasgow Necropolis Where A Silent City Awaits

Walking through the Glasgow Necropolis, I am reminded of its stillness as it sits over Mother Glasgow and silently observes the living. The gravestones and monuments are weathered with time, others upgraded by forward generations who tell stories of lives once lived. Each name etched in stone represents someone who walked these streets, shared meals, and whispered secrets under Glasgow's grey skies.

Yet, beneath those stones lie mysteries I cannot fully grasp. These people once laughed, argued, hoped, and dreamed. They travelled, however far their lives allowed, saw sunsets over the Clyde, and perhaps loved or lost in ways as profound as we do now. What strikes me most is the thought of their consciousness—that inner film reel of moments unique to each person. Where has it gone?

Earlier that day, as I arrived in Glasgow, I encountered a group of volunteers raising funds for Pancreatic Cancer Action. They stood resolutely, braving the November chill with their collection buckets and bright smiles. Each one no doubt had a story, perhaps of this malady that robbed them and their family of so much life.

It struck me that at one end of Glasgow, there were people fighting to stave off death, channelling their concerns into hope and action. And yet, here in the Necropolis, I stood among those who had already succumbed. The contrast was sobering—on one hand, the fierce struggle to preserve life; on the other, the stillness of its end.

The Bible speaks of the breath of life, given and then taken away. In Ecclesiastes, we read that the dead know nothing, their plans and thoughts extinguished with their final breath. It’s an arresting image—this idea that what makes us who we are is so intimately tied to the breath God gives us. The people buried here had thoughts as vivid as mine, dreams that seemed so tangible, and inner worlds so rich that they would have resisted reduction to mere dust. And yet, the moment their breath left them, those worlds ceased to exist in the way we understand.

But as I walk these paths, I feel a sense of expectation, not hopelessness. Jesus’ words in John 5:28-29 echo in my mind: “Do not marvel at this; for the hour is coming in which all who are in the graves will hear His voice and come forth.” This promise fills the Necropolis with a strange kind of anticipation. If Jesus’ words are true, then these lives are not extinguished but merely paused, waiting for renewal.

What does it mean to be worthy of such renewal? I think of the struggles these people endured. Their gravestones hint at professions, relationships, and sometimes tragedies. But their worthiness, as Jesus described it, is not measured by accolades or wealth. It’s wrapped up in their relationship with their Creator—the choices they made when confronted with love, kindness, and faith.

The volunteers reminded me of this worthiness. Their fight against cancer was not just about extending days but about honouring the lives that had been lost. Their stories, like those etched in stone at the Necropolis, were filled with love, loss, and resilience. They stood as a reminder that the breath of life is precious and must be cherished.

The Necropolis reminds me that life is fleeting and precious.  But it also whispers of eternity, of a future where these lives may once again unfold in vibrant colour. The struggles we face, the meals we share with loved ones, and the dreams we pursue are not lost forever. They are held in suspension, preserved in the mind of God, who knows the secrets of every heart.

Walking among the graves, I feel a strange kinship with those who lie here. Someday, someone may wander past my resting place and wonder about my inner world, too. But the promise of resurrection bridges the divide between the living and the dead, offering hope that this mystery called consciousness will one day be restored, illuminated by the One who gave it life.



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