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And each man will sit under his own vine and under his own fig tree, 

with no one to frighten him. For the mouth of the LORD of Hosts has spoken.

 - Micah 4:4

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I asked my wife recently what her happiest childhood memory was. Without hesitation, she said, "Playing in my grandparents’ garden back in our little village in the Philippines." I saw that memory come alive again just this weekend. As she bent down among the flowerbeds, bedding new plants with quiet joy, her face glowed with the same peace I imagined she felt as a child. There was something sacred about it.

It brought me back to a thought I explored in a previous blog—the idea of redesigning life on earth. Despite the fractures of this world, despite its often hopeless state, there are still oases of healing. Why is it that we experience deep psychological and physical restoration when exposed to nature? Science points to hormones, neural pathways, circadian rhythms. But I think it’s simpler than that: we were made for a garden.

This was God’s original plan—for us to cultivate the earth, to walk with Him in a place of harmony. But something broke. The emergence of selfishness and evil shattered that sacred space. And yet, deep within, the longing remains.

It’s no coincidence that we are drawn to beauty, to peace, to the natural world. Who hasn’t at some point prayed the Lord’s Prayer and glossed over the words, “Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven”? Or heard Jesus' words to the criminal on the cross: “You will be with me in Paradise.” These are not vague hopes. They’re promises—a return to the garden.

And maybe that’s what our longing really is: an ache for Paradise.

I’ve felt this longing since I was a boy. I remember the moment it took hold. My music teacher had introduced us to the haunting, soul-deep compositions of Edvard Grieg. As the first notes of Morning played, I was no longer in the classroom. I was somewhere else—somewhere vast and wild, where mist clung to mountains and fjords cut deep into the earth like ancient wounds of beauty. I was ten years old, but I felt something I couldn't name: a kind of homesickness for a country I had never seen.

Later I would learn the German word Fernweh—a deep longing for a faraway place, especially one you’ve never been. That word has stayed with me because it captures something I’ve never quite shaken. Even now, when I hear Grieg’s Peer Gynt Suite, something stirs. I feel the tug of mountains I’ve never climbed, forests I’ve never wandered, and air I’ve never breathed but somehow know in my bones. It’s as though that music opened a door in me, revealing a home I’ve yet to find.

Strangely, this ache is not unique. It’s deeply personal, yes—but universally human. We are creatures of longing.

I often wonder—if I moved to Scandinavia, would I still feel the same ache? Or would I miss the rugged coastline of Scotland, the wild Atlantic winds, the place I’ve called home for decades?

Perhaps the truth is that we belong to that redesigned society we pondered on in the previous blog. Maybe Fernweh is a reminder that we have roots scattered across the earth, planted by stories, by melodies, by memories passed down or inherited in ways we can’t explain. My own surname is Celtic, with threads tied to the old Norse. Who’s to say that somewhere deep in the psyche, those ancestral echoes aren’t still at work?

And maybe that’s where the spiritual meets the personal. Could it be that this longing—whether for gardens or fjords, tropics or tundra—isn’t about geography at all? Maybe it’s a longing for the world as it was meant to be. Maybe it’s the soul’s way of remembering Eden.

My friends and I often discuss God’s future plans. Will the faithful go to heaven or remain on earth? Could Paradise be somewhere not yet revealed? I don’t claim to know. But one thing I do believe: in that place, wherever it is, we won’t feel homesick.

Because home, in its truest sense, isn’t just a place. It’s the fulfilment of every yearning we’ve ever had. It’s the sound of Grieg’s mountains, the scent of a grandmother’s garden, the quiet joy of planting something beautiful in the soil. It’s the world made whole again.

The psychologist leaned in slightly and asked, “What’s the capital of Scotland?”

“Edinburgh, of course,” he replied.

His next question caught him off guard: “And when was the last time you shared a meal with friends?”

Suddenly, a warm reel of memories began to play in his mind—a slow, cosy film where laughter mingled with the scent of food, and time seemed to stretch in the glow of shared company.

On What it Means to Be Human — Jim McCrory

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But they shall sit every man under his vine and under his fig tree; 

and none shall make them afraid:

 for the mouth of the Lord of hosts hath spoken it.

Micah 4:4 (KJB)

Sobremesa: The Art of Lingering in a Fast-Paced World

In a world that glorifies speed and productivity, where our days are measured in schedules and deadlines, the Mexican tradition of sobremesastands out like a quiet rebellion. It’s a word I didn’t grow up with, but one that resonates deeply with the quieter rhythms of life I’ve come to cherish over time. Sobremesa is not just the time spent at the table after the meal is finished, but the celebration of togetherness, the shared moments that linger long after the last bite has been taken.

Growing up in Glasgow, meals were often practical affairs. The city moved to the rhythm of its shipyards and industries, and meals mirrored that pace. Food, in my childhood home, was sustenance—something to keep the body going before the next task. Yet, tucked into those hurried moments were the seeds of something slower, something closer to sobremesa. There were nights when conversation stretched long after the plates had been cleared, and I would find myself drawn into the world of my parents’ memories, stories of their childhoods, and the hardships and joys that shaped them. I didn’t know it then, but those moments—the laughter, the sighs, the comfortable silences—were fragments of what sobremesa embodies.

It wasn’t until later in life that I experienced a more intentional version of this tradition. My wife and I began to cherish slow Sunday afternoons, particularly when visiting friends. We would linger over cups of tea, talking about everything and nothing, as time seemed to slow to a comfortable crawl. The conversation wasn’t about achieving something or checking off a task; it was about presence, connection, and the shared human experience. In those moments, I realized that the space after the meal—the sobremesa—was just as nourishing as the food itself.

And here’s the beautiful thing: no matter how often we gathered, no matter how many times we shared those meals, we never tired of it. There was always something new to discuss, some story to revisit or some laughter to be had. It was as if these moments with loved ones, this time spent together after the meal, was something infinite in its appeal. I suspect that even if we lived forever, we would never tire of sitting down to a meal with family and friends. The act itself, like sobremesa, never grows old because it taps into something eternal—our deep need for connection, for communion with others.

There is something almost sacred about this time. In a world where so much is transactional, sobremesa asks nothing of us but our presence. It invites us to be, rather than do. To share, rather than compete. In this space, stories are passed on, wisdom is exchanged, and relationships deepen. It’s a practice that reminds me of the spiritual dimensions of community—the importance of staying a little longer, of listening a little more carefully, of allowing time to unfold naturally without rushing to the next thing.

As I reflect on this, I think about how much we lose when we hurry through life. In the push for efficiency, we forget the richness of connection, the joy of simply being with others. Sobremesa offers us an antidote to this, a reminder that some of the most meaningful moments happen when we let go of the need to be somewhere else.

Perhaps that’s why sobremesa feels so timely and timeless to me. In a culture often focused on what’s next, it offers the gift of now. It’s an invitation to linger, to engage in the deep human need for connection. And in a world where so many are isolated, where divisions grow wider, sobremesa reminds us that the simple act of sitting together, of sharing a moment, can be one of the most profound ways to foster community.

It is in the lingering that we find meaning, in the small, unhurried moments that reveal the fullness of our shared humanity. In those extended conversations after a meal, we are reminded that we were never meant to go through life alone, but in communion with others—whether over coffee, or tea, or something as simple as the warmth of another person’s presence.

And maybe, just maybe, the world could use a little more sobremesa. Because if we were made to live forever, we’d still look forward to those meals, still find joy in the company of those we love, still cherish the conversations that flow long after the last bite is taken. Some things, it seems, are timeless.