"It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man."
Psalm 118:8
Religion is deeply personal. For many, it shapes how they see the world, make decisions, and find purpose. But what happens when doubts creep in? Is it wrong—maybe even sinful—to question your beliefs? Or could it be a sign of faith, a desire to seek truth and draw closer to God?
People question their religion for all sorts of reasons. Some do it out of a sincere longing to understand and to ensure their faith aligns with God's will. Others, admittedly, may use doctrinal issues as a convenient excuse to throw off moral accountability. But the act of questioning itself isn’t inherently wrong. What matters is the motive behind it.
When my wife and I decided to step away from our religion, it wasn’t an impulsive choice. We wanted to return to the core of our faith, so we turned to the Gospels and the Book of Acts. We asked ourselves, What do God and Jesus actually require of us? That journey wasn’t easy, but it brought us a profound sense of freedom.
For three decades, I felt trapped, always busy with religious obligations, spinning like a Sufi whirler who never stops to reflect. I couldn’t sit down and enjoy a movie without guilt or take a day for leisure without feeling I was neglecting something. Once we stepped back, though, I found myself with time to study God’s word independently, free from outside pressures. It was refreshing in a way I hadn’t experienced before.
Around that time, I read Nothing to Envy by Barbara Demick, a book about life in North Korea. It opened my eyes to how people can hold two conflicting beliefs at the same time. North Koreans are taught that Kim Jong Un is a god, but deep down, they see the lack of evidence. Speaking those doubts aloud, however, could lead to isolation or worse.
I saw unsettling parallels with my own experience. In my religion, questioning the system was frowned upon, even dangerous. Isolation wasn’t physical imprisonment, but it was emotional and social. Doubts were equated with disloyalty, and leaving could cost you everything.
Contrast that with the example of the Bereans in the Bible. In Acts 17, Paul and Silas share the gospel in Berea, and the people there don’t just take their word for it. They eagerly examine the Scriptures daily to see if what they’re being taught is true. That’s what makes the Bereans noble—they don’t blindly accept; they investigate.
When I started examining my own beliefs in that way, I realized how many of them didn’t hold up. It wasn’t a sinful rebellion against God; it was a return to Him. I wanted to know Him more deeply, not through the filter of human rules and traditions, but directly through His word.
It does sadden me when I see others leave religion and lose faith entirely, often blaming God for what they endured. But the Bible warns us not to put our trust in men. People can fail us, but God remains constant. Leaving a religion doesn’t mean abandoning God. In fact, it can be an opportunity to grow closer to Him.
I often think about the issue raised in Eden: Will humanity remain loyal to God, or will we go our own way? That question is just as relevant today. The choice is ours, but it’s not one between blind obedience to human institutions and total rejection of faith. There’s a third path: one of seeking truth, understanding, and a deeper connection with God.
So, is it a sin to question your religion? I don’t believe so. In fact, I think it’s necessary. Asking questions can strengthen faith, strip away unnecessary burdens, and bring clarity. Jesus himself said, “You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Truth isn’t something to fear—it’s something to pursue.