" I am a man of principle, and I glory in the name.”
Mr Pecksniff in Charles Chuzzelwit
Charles Dickens
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The World According to Pecksniff
On Self-Absorption and Its Everyday Disguises
The above quote from Mr Pecksniff is a character who portrays himself as the very essence of virtue the kind of person who walks into a room and instantly becomes the sun, everything must orbit around him. We know people like that. At first, you might not notice. They smile broadly, speak warmly, and often carry a moral vocabulary that feels reassuring. But linger long enough and something begins to curdle. Their virtue is performative, their kindness self-congratulatory, and their interest in others as fleeting as a ripple in a mirror.
In my life, I’ve encountered many such figures, some in positions of religious authority, others in the everyday world of work or family. And each time I’ve struggled to name what I was experiencing; it was literature that gave me the vocabulary. Specifically, Charles Dickens gave me Pecksniff.
Ah, Pecksniff! Dickens’s most gloriously hypocritical creation. In Martin Chuzzlewit, Mr. Pecksniff is a self-proclaimed moralist, a paragon of virtue in his own mind. He lectures on goodness, extols self-denial, and oozes piety like syrup on a cold plate. But beneath this surface of sanctity lies greed, manipulation, and a hunger for status that he cloaks in sentimental phrases. If hypocrisy had a mascot, it would be he.
Reading about Pecksniff was like suddenly putting on glasses and seeing certain people in my past with vivid clarity. The syrupy self-praise, the inability to truly listen, the way their goodness always required an audience, it was all there. I began to recognize the traits not only in others but in society’s broader patterns, and, if I’m honest, I had to check my own heart for the same seeds.
One of the most telling signs of self-absorption is a lack of empathy. A truly self-absorbed person cannot sit with another’s sorrow without shifting the attention back to themselves. They might feign concern, "Oh dear, that reminds me of when I had it even worse"—but it's all a performance. Like Pecksniff, who sheds tears for show but is incapable of genuine compassion, they mimic empathy while lacking its substance.
Then there is the need for validation. I’ve watched people pursue praise like it were oxygen, needing constant affirmation of their worth, intelligence, or virtue. They share their good deeds publicly, not to encourage others, but to soak in the applause. It reminds me of Jesus's warning in Matthew 6—not to sound trumpets when giving to the needy, as the Pharisees did. Dickens’s Pecksniff, too, cannot do a single thing without somehow narrating it as a testament to his own nobility.
Conversation-hogging is another mark. A self-absorbed person can’t abide silence unless they are filling it. You start to share something meaningful, and they interrupt with “That reminds me of when I…” Suddenly, you’re no longer part of the dialogue—you’re just a prop in their monologue.
Then there’s entitlement—a quiet assumption that the world owes them something. At worst, it becomes domineering: interrupting, overriding, expecting favours without the faintest inclination to return them. It’s masked well. Often these people wear a humble expression, quote scripture, and speak of love, all while subtly climbing over others to secure their own advantage.
Defensiveness is another red flag. If challenged, even gently, they twist the narrative or cast themselves as the victim. In Dickens’s portrayal, when Pecksniff is called out, he gasps in holy outrage—how dare anyone question his motives! It is spiritual gaslighting at its finest.
And then there’s the obsession with image. They care deeply about how they appear, not about who they are. Every conversation is an opportunity to curate a persona: humble, wise, enlightened, kind. But like the whitewashed tombs Jesus spoke of, it’s all exterior polish.
In real life, this can show up in subtle but exhausting ways. The person who never asks about your life. The “friend” who disappears when you’re in need but expects a cheering section for their minor struggles. The one who can’t hear no without punishing you emotionally. Or the religious leader who uses morality as a tool to control rather than liberate. And, of course, the social media saint—always preaching, always posting, always conspicuously good.
Over time, you begin to see that self-absorption is not just narcissism in a mirror, but a spiritual condition. It is the slow suffocation of empathy. It is the inverse of love, which “is not proud… is not self-seeking.”
The antidote isn’t to hate such people. It’s to name the behaviour, guard your soul, and model something better. Boundaries are not unkind. Silence, when someone demands your attention for the wrong reasons, is not cruelty. And real humility—not the sweetened, stage-lit kind—is the deepest form of strength.
Pecksniff is a warning, not just a character. And Dickens, in his brilliance, didn’t create him to condemn others alone. He created him to make us look in the mirror and ask: Where have I worn that mask?
“Let us be moral. Let us contemplate existence. Let us find out what it means, and let us be men of moral elevation and character.”
Pecksniff’s lofty rhetoric is almost always undermined by his behaviour. This quote is classic Pecksniff: vague, moral-sounding, and completely empty.