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Letting Go of What Lives in the Mind

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Thursday 12 March 2026 at 15:23

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Letting Go of What Lives in the Mind

 

 It looks as innocent as an octopus. It's

Toxoplasma gondii, and microscopic, invisible to the naked eye, yet capable of entering the bodies and brains  of warm-blooded animals, including human beings. 

It is a disturbing thought: something so small finding its way into the brain and quietly shaping behaviour.

Bitterness can behave in a strangely similar way.

A wound enters the mind; a word spoken in anger, a betrayal, an injustice, and if it is fed long enough, it begins to burrow into our thoughts. The memory repeats itself. The hurt grows familiar. Before long, resentment begins to influence how we see people, how we speak, even how we feel about life itself. The parasitic thought dictates their whole life.

Back in the day when I was part of organised religion, I gave several speeches as a visiting speaker in other congregations. The most requested talk was "Do You Harbour Resentment or do You Forgive?" This was a talk primarily for a Christian audience, the frequency of this talk demonstrated the tendency in humans to nurse other's faults.

History offers us the way forward in the life of Corrie ten Boom. During the Holocaust, Corrie and her family hid Jewish people in their home. Their courage led to arrest and imprisonment in Ravensbrück concentration camp, where her sister Betsie died.

Out of that suffering came a discovery Corrie would later speak about around the world: the power of forgiveness.

Years after the war, while speaking in a church, a man approached her. She recognized him immediately. He had been one of the guards at Ravensbrück. With quiet sincerity he told her he had become a Christian and asked if she could forgive him.

In an instant the past returned—the humiliation, the cruelty, the loss of her sister. Forgiveness felt impossible. Yet the words of Jesus came to mind: “Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”

Silently she prayed for help. Then, almost against her own strength, she reached out and took his hand.

What she felt in that moment, she later said, was something she could only describe as God’s power—an overwhelming sense of release that washed away the bitterness she had carried.

Most of us know the quieter version of that struggle. Someone wounds us, and the mind returns to it again and again. We rehearse the conversation. We imagine what we should have said. Meanwhile, the other person may have long since forgotten.

The strange truth is that resentment rarely imprisons the person who hurt us.

It imprisons us.

Jesus pointed to a different path. When Saint Peter once asked how many times forgiveness should be offered—seven times perhaps—Jesus replied, “Not seven, but seventy-seven.” Forgiveness was never meant to be arithmetic. It is not a ledger of debts, but a freedom of heart.

To forgive does not deny the wound. Pain is real. Loss is real. Forgiveness simply refuses to let the injury rule the rest of our lives.

Corrie ten Boom once said that forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment. By forgiving, she did not erase Ravensbrück. She simply refused to carry the camp into her future.

And perhaps that is where forgiveness begins for most of us—not as a sudden emotion, but as a quiet decision. Sometimes it must be chosen again and again. Sometimes it is only a whispered prayer: “Lord, help me forgive.”

Yet we are not asked to do this alone. The same Jesus who spoke of forgiveness also practiced it from the cross, and the strength He showed there is the strength He offers to us.

So, it may be worth asking a gentle question.

Is something living in your mind that should no longer be there?

If resentment has burrowed in like a parasite, perhaps it is time to let it go. Forgiveness is not merely a gift given to another person.

It is freedom given to your own soul.

 

A brief reflection on the Gospel of Matthew 6:14–15

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive yours.”

 

These words come from Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount, shortly after He taught the Lord’s Prayer. They reveal a deep spiritual principle: a heart that receives God’s mercy should become a heart that gives mercy.

Forgiveness here is not merely a rule. It is about the condition of the heart. When someone holds tightly to bitterness, it can close the door to the freedom and peace that God’s forgiveness brings.

Christ is inviting people into a different way of living—one where mercy flows in two directions:

  • from God to us, and

  • from us to others.

It can be difficult, especially when wounds run deep. Yet the teaching reminds us that forgiveness is not about pretending the hurt was small. It is about placing the hurt in God’s hands instead of carrying it forever.

 

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What Would a Greater Intelligence Notice About Us?

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He has shown you, O man, what is good;
and what the Lord requires of you:
to act justly..."

Micah 6:8

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What Would a Greater Intelligence Notice About Us?

Pause for a moment and bring to mind someone you no longer speak to; someone you may even despise. Now ask yourself why. If you were to write the reason down, would it still hold its weight? Would it sound reasonable, or strangely small? Often, once it’s written on paper, the justification looks thinner than it felt in the moment.

Now turn the lens inward. Think of the worst thing you’ve ever done to another person. Does your body react—tightening, cringing, flooding with shame? That discomfort tells a truth we don’t like to sit with: we know when we’ve crossed a line, even if we’ve spent years avoiding the memory.

Scripture offers a deceptively simple instruction when resentment takes root: go and speak to the person, privately, face to face. Not to gather allies. Not to rehearse grievances. Just the two of you. The reason is sobering—dragging others into our hatred inflames the wound and exposes our own inner condition. If that is so, why surrender years of life to bitterness?

I once belonged to a faith community where I regularly gave public talks. The one people asked for most was titled, “Do you harbour resentment, or do you forgive?” At its core was that same ancient counsel: speak directly, or let the matter go. Hatred, I learned, doesn’t punish the other person nearly as much as it corrodes the one who carries it.

Now imagine a perspective beyond our own—an intelligence observing humanity from outside our small sphere of existence. What would it see?

It would likely notice how often we erupt over things that barely matter. Someone who reminds you what you failed to do. A parking space. A passing comment. Tiny sparks that somehow ignite full-blown conflict. But these clashes are rarely about the surface issue. Beneath them lie pride, insecurity, fear of being dismissed, fear of being wrong.

Many conflicts begin with the feeling of having been wronged, even when no harm was intended. A misunderstood word, a careless tone, a moment read through the lens of our own wounds. The resentment that follows can linger for years, long after the original event has faded into distortion. The argument becomes symbolic, while the real pain goes unnamed.

Religion, too, has often been a fault line. People have separated, condemned, even killed one another over differences in belief—despite the fact that doctrines evolve, fracture, and reform across time. What begins as a search for truth hardens into tribal identity. In defending belonging, compassion is often sacrificed.

There is also a quieter conflict: the anger we feel when advice brushes against our vulnerabilities. A suggestion, however well-meant, can feel like an accusation. Rather than listening, we retreat. We resist not because the advice is cruel, but because it asks us to change.

Over and over, the same pattern emerges. The conflict is not about the thing itself. It is about the self—its pride, its fears, its unwillingness to be examined. We fight hardest when our identity feels threatened, even if the trigger is trivial.

The real challenge, then, is learning to recognize when emotion has taken the steering wheel. To listen without immediately defending. To disagree without dehumanizing. To receive correction without hatred. These are difficult disciplines, but they strip countless battles of their power.

And perhaps this is what any watching intelligence would notice most of all—not our technology, not our arguments, but our hearts. How we wield judgment. Whether we choose mercy. Whether we walk carefully, aware that how we treat one another may be the clearest evidence of who we truly are.

He has shown you, O man, what is good;
and what the Lord requires of you:
to act justly,
to love mercy,
and to walk humbly with your God.”

Micah 6:8

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