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Speaking as People of Mercy

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Friday 5 June 2026 at 07:20

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Speaking as People of Mercy

Dear reader, may I share an important thought from my reading today? It is perhaps the most important thought I have written about.

It comes from a verse in Isaiah, written centuries ago, which gives us a profound insight into God’s way of thinking:

‘If you do away with the yoke of oppression, with the pointing finger and malicious talk … then your light will rise in the darkness.’
— Isaiah 58:9–10

Isaiah was speaking to people who were outwardly religious. They fasted and prayed, yet their words and actions still caused harm to others. God was not impressed by devotion that left their hearts unkind.

It is striking that Isaiah places ‘malicious talk’ alongside oppression. We may be tempted to excuse cruel speech as a small matter, but words can injure deeply. Gossip can ruin a reputation. An accusation can isolate a person. A harsh remark can deepen a wound that no one else can see.

The image of ‘the pointing finger’ feels especially relevant today. We live in a time when anger and judgement can be spread instantly. Social media has made it easy to condemn someone before listening, to pass on rumours before knowing the truth, and to speak words we might never say face to face.

There are times when wrongdoing must be challenged. Isaiah himself was not afraid to speak the truth. But there is a difference between speaking truth with love and taking pleasure in another person’s humiliation.

These words apply to us all. Yet it is sobering to remember that God was addressing religious people: those who believed themselves to be in a comfortable relationship with Him. His words therefore challenge all who bow the knee to God. They also speak to every human heart, for we are commanded to love our neighbour as ourselves.

It is possible to worship God while speaking cruelly of others. It is possible to talk about grace while showing very little of it. Our speech reveals whether our faith has truly reached our hearts.

Isaiah does not only tell us to stop wounding others. He calls us to become people of mercy. A kind word, a refusal to repeat gossip, a sincere apology, or a quiet defence of someone unfairly judged can bring light into another person’s darkness.

Our generation has more ways to speak than any before it, yet it still needs the ancient discipline of kindness. The world has enough pointing fingers. It needs people whose words are truthful, gentle and shaped by the mercy they themselves have received from God. And may God bless you in your efforts.

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The Price of Whispers: Finding Freedom From Idle Gossip

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“If anyone thinks he is religious without controlling his tongue, 

his religion is useless, and he deceives himself.”

James 1: 26, CSB.





Why do people gossip? For some, its simple curiosity, an attempt to piece together another's story. Others gossip to elevate themselves, reasoning that if they can highlight someone else's shortcomings, they’ll somehow appear superior. Some people gossip simply to belong, thinking it will help them fit in with a crowd. For others, it’s even darker—a tool to hurt, to control, or to destroy. Regardless of the reason, each motivation reveals something about the person and, sadly, often drives away true friendships.

James 1:26 in the Bible offers a striking perspective on this: “If anyone thinks he is religious without controlling his tongue, his religion is useless, and he deceives himself.” This isn’t just a suggestion for those in faith communities but a guiding principle for anyone who wishes to live with integrity. The unrestrained tongue, always ready to spark the next bit of scandal or critique, damages not only those it targets but the one who wields it. The cost? Genuine relationships. True friendships thrive on trust and understanding, but gossip is like termites gnawing away at the foundation of that trust.

If you find yourself in a setting where gossip is the common currency—whether it’s family gatherings, social groups, or even online—consider how it's shaping the atmosphere around you. Sometimes, walking away from that toxicity is the only way to keep your integrity and peace intact. Yet, distancing yourself can be difficult, especially when the gossiping voices are those of friends, family, or respected colleagues. Still, remember that staying true to yourself and avoiding the urge to participate is a quiet but powerful act of defiance.

It’s worth taking a moment to reflect on your own conversations. Ask yourself, “Have I, knowingly or unknowingly, hurt someone by gossiping?” If so, consider making amends. Remember that the words we let loose can either build up or tear down—and rebuilding is never as easy as walking away.

In a world that’s all too ready to listen to gossip, let’s choose instead to listen to each other’s stories with empathy and kindness, keeping “speak no evil” as a guiding light. By doing so, we make space for friendships that are genuine, built not on shared whispers but on shared respect. After all, true friends don’t need to trade secrets—they’re far too busy building each other up.

 

 

 

 

(Scripture quotations marked CSB have been taken from the Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 2017 by Holman Bible Publishers. Used by permission. Christian Standard Bible® and CSB® are federally registered trademarks of Holman Bible Publishers.) 

 

 


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Speak Positively of Fellow Humans

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Wednesday 4 June 2025 at 14:10

A perverse man spreads dissension, and a gossip divides close friends.

Proverbs 16:28 BSB

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Can I ask you to put yourself in an imaginary scenario? Suppose by some miraculous means someone knocked on your door and offered you £10.000.000 with only one string attached:  as soon as you decide to take it, a poor farmer in Mongolia or somewhere else will drop dead. 

If you refuse to take the money, he lives. What would be your decision? You have his future life and the happiness of his family in your hands. Does a rural farmer you have never met have value in your eyes?

Before you decide, think of the poor farmer whose family depends on him for survival. He has a child who needs medical care but can barely afford it. Added to that, the farmer has cancer and worries every night about what will become of his children when he dies.

So, what would be your decision?

Gossip and slander are like that. We may pass on a bit of gossip for the reward —— the temporary dopamine lift ——, but at what cost? Someone at school, work, family, or congregation ,whom you have grown to dislike or hate for some reason,  is lying awake with hurt.

Do you feel that is worth the cost of the dopamine lift? Think about this, if you gossip, what kind of crowd will gather around you? I guess those who may talk about you. People who gossip cannot be trusted. Therefore, in trying to raise their self-esteem by putting down others, they lose self-worth and dignity.

Besides, and above all reasons, there is our relationship with God to consider. No one would want to be viewed by God as "corrupt" or "perverse",  Proverbs 16:28,

A corrupt person stirs up anxiety and divides close friends.

If we have failed in this, let us resolve to speak positively of fellow humans.

Proverbs 16:28 WEB


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