Personal Blogs

“For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.”

— Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet (1923)

Dear Gen Z and Gen Alpha: A Letter to You

My dears,

You are entering a changing world, and much of what you will grow up considering normal is anything but. I do not say this because I want you to fear the world or become suspicious of everyone in it. There is enormous goodness in people, and I hope your lives will be filled with friendship, laughter, discovery and love. But I have lived long enough to know that appearances can deceive, that accepted ideas are not necessarily true, and that a crowd can be confidently travelling in the wrong direction. Because I love the human family, I want to leave you with a few things that may help you find your way.

Learn first to love truth, even when truth is inconvenient. You will live among powerful forces competing for your attention and allegiance, and sometimes truth will be exchanged for power, money, influence or approval and such traits can even be cultivated in a family. Lies are not always ugly things that announce themselves as lies; some arrive beautifully dressed, repeated by intelligent people and made attractive by those who stand to benefit from them. When an idea is repeated often enough, it begins to feel familiar, and familiarity can easily be mistaken for truth. So, remain curious. Ask questions, examine motives and evidence, and never surrender your conscience merely because everyone around you appears to agree.

Learn to observe people in the same way, but without becoming cynical about them. Someone may tell you that they love you, and perhaps they sincerely believe they do, but words alone cannot tell you what love is. Watch how people behave when there is nothing to be gained, how they treat those who cannot advance them, whether they respect your boundaries, whether they tell the truth when truth costs them something, and whether they desire what is genuinely good for you rather than simply what they want from you. Love reveals itself gradually in conduct, patience, loyalty, sacrifice and kindness.

This becomes especially important when you begin to fall in love, because attraction has a wonderful ability to interfere with clear eyesight. The person who attracts us can appear almost perfect for a while, and feelings that are intense can easily be mistaken for feelings that are deep. Enjoy the beauty of falling in love, but allow time to reveal character. The wider culture will have much to say about sex and relationships, and films, television, advertising and entertainment will quietly present certain ways of living as ordinary and inevitable. Remember that repetition is not evidence of wisdom. Save sexual intimacy for the person you marry, not because sexuality is something shameful, but precisely because it is something precious. Your body has dignity, as does the body of the person you love. Never allow yourself to believe that you must give something intimate away in order to prove that you are mature, desirable or liberated. Learn the difference between being desired and being loved, because although the two can feel remarkably similar at first, time usually reveals which one you were offered.

Time is a good teacher in other areas of life too. I hope you receive an excellent education, read widely, remain curious and never become frightened of an honest question. But do not make the mistake of believing that education automatically produces wisdom. Knowledge can teach us how something works, while wisdom asks what we should do with that knowledge. It is true that a tomato is a fruit, but it is wise not to ad it into a fruit salad. A person may possess qualifications enough to cover a wall and still make a terrible ruin of his life, while someone with little formal education may possess an extraordinary understanding of human nature. Seek out older and wiser people whose lives have produced good fruit. Ask them about their successes, but ask them about their mistakes as well. There is a great deal of wisdom sitting quietly in elderly people whom the hurried world has simply stopped asking.

The same humility will protect you when it comes to money. There is an old saying that I hope will make you smile and, more importantly, that you will remember: if a naked man offers you a shirt, be suspicious. Behind the humour lies a serious principle. Before accepting advice, consider the condition and motives of the person giving it. When somebody offers you an extraordinary financial opportunity, ask what they stand to gain from your decision. When you are promised easy money, ask where that money is really coming from, and when somebody insists that you must act immediately, wonder why you are not being given time to think. Greed and urgency have made fools of many intelligent people. Learn to live within your means, be generous where you can, avoid unnecessary debt and remember that money can be a useful servant but makes a dreadful master.

All these things—truth, love, relationships, wisdom and money—lead me towards what I most want to leave with you, which is the importance of seeking friendship with God. Human beings are capable of astonishing goodness, courage and tenderness, so love them, enjoy them, forgive them and allow yourself to be loved by them. At the same time, do not ask another human being to carry the weight that belongs to God. Even the best people will sometimes disappoint you, just as you will sometimes disappoint those who love you. If your deepest foundation rests entirely upon another person, you are asking a fragile human being to bear something no human being was designed to carry.

Psalm 15 contains a beautiful picture of the person who can have intimacy with God and enjoy friendship with Him. What strikes me is that the description has nothing to do with wealth, intelligence, social position or achievement. It is about character: someone who walks with integrity, practises what is right, speaks truth from the heart, refuses to injure others with his words, keeps his promises even when doing so becomes costly, and will not exploit another person for financial advantage. There is something wonderfully uncomplicated about that picture. The world may measure you by what you possess, what you accomplish or how important you appear, but God looks at what kind of person you are becoming.

The world you inherit will undoubtedly be very different from the one in which I grew up. Technology will change beyond anything I can presently imagine, customs will change, and ideas considered unquestionable today may one day appear strange or even foolish. Your own generation will have its certainties too, and some of them may eventually prove equally mistaken. That is why I hope you will never build your life merely upon what happens to be fashionable around you. Build it instead upon things that endure, and when you are uncertain, ask whether something is true, whether it is loving and honourable, whether you are treating another person as you would wish to be treated, and whether you can do it with a clear conscience before God.

I do not expect you to think exactly as I think, nor would I want you merely to inherit my conclusions without examining them for yourselves. You will have your own questions, make discoveries I never made and undoubtedly make mistakes of your own. Some wisdom can be passed from one generation to another, but some has to be acquired through living. What I hope is that, wherever life takes you, you remain lovers of truth without becoming harsh, cautious without becoming cynical, strong without becoming hard, and humble enough to change your mind when you discover that you were wrong. Be kind to people who can do nothing for you, never mistake another person's weakness for an opportunity to exploit them, and whenever you can make somebody's burden a little lighter, do so.

Life passes more quickly than you can presently imagine. Perhaps one day you too will sit down to write to the children and youth of your world and wonder what you can possibly tell them about a world you will not live long enough to see. By then I hope you will have discovered for yourselves that a good life is not finally measured by what you accumulated, how impressive you appeared or how many people knew your name. Its deeper measure is found in what you loved, what you stood for, how you treated those who crossed your path, whether you remained faithful to truth when falsehood would have been easier, and whether your friendship with God shaped the person you became.

If you do, perhaps when your own grandchildren look at you many years from now, the most valuable inheritance you give them will not be something you possess at all. It will be the kind of person they saw you become.

With all my love,

Written by Jim, with editorial assistance from ChatGPT.

What I'd Like Every Young Person to Know

It was New Years Eve many years ago. I had spent the day in Glasgow doing my shopping for a party I was not invited to. Before catching the train home, I wandered underage into a small bar and ordered a pint. It wasn't really the beer I wanted. I simply wasn't ready to go back to a lonely house.

As I sat there, a melancholy song drifted from the jukebox. Under other circumstances I might scarcely have noticed it, but that afternoon it seemed to find every lonely corner of my heart. Around me people laughed, wished Hogmanay  greetings and hurried away to get ready for parties, family gatherings and warm homes. Everyone, it seemed, had somewhere to belong.

I remember staring into my glass and wondering, Where is life taking me? Why do I feel so unnoticed? Why am I so shy? Why do girls not notice me?

It is a strange thing to feel lonely in the middle of a crowd.

Thankfully, life did not remain that way. Things changed. More importantly, I changed. Looking back now, I realise that what I experienced is something many young people quietly endure. Loneliness. Uncertainty. The feeling that everyone else has found their place while you are still searching for yours.

After many years of living, despite still feeling young inside, people sometimes ask what wisdom those years have brought. Well, if I could sit down with every young person for half an hour, I don't think I would begin by asking what career they hoped to pursue or what grades they achieved at school. Those things have their place, but they are not the deepest questions. We are not our grades.

I would want to know what kind of person they hope to become.

The world speaks endlessly about success. It tells you to be noticed, to gain followers, to build a reputation and to stay ahead of everyone else. Yet history has a curious habit of remembering something else. Long after fame has faded and fortunes have disappeared, people are remembered for their courage, their honesty, their kindness and the quiet way they treated others.

Never underestimate the value of character. It is built in small decisions that no one else sees. Every truthful answer when a lie would be easier, every act of kindness that goes unnoticed, every temptation resisted and every promise kept is shaping the person you are becoming.

You may sometimes feel that your examination results define you. They do not. Work hard, by all means. Learn eagerly and give your best. Education opens doors, but your worth has never depended upon the marks written at the top of a page. Some of the wisest people I have met would never have called themselves academic, yet they possessed qualities that no examination could ever measure: compassion, perseverance, humility and integrity.

Do not be afraid to be different. It takes little courage to drift with the crowd. It takes real strength to stand quietly for what is right when others laugh at it. Every generation needs people who are willing to say, 'No, I cannot do that,' even when they stand alone.

There is another gift you possess that deserves careful protection: your conscience. It is that quiet voice which sometimes speaks when everyone else is silent. It urges honesty when dishonesty would be easier. It troubles us when we have acted unfairly and gives peace when we have done what is right. Never make the mistake of silencing it. A clear conscience is worth far more than a guilty success.

Be generous with kindness. You may never know how deeply a simple word of encouragement affects another person. Many adults can still remember a teacher who believed in them, a neighbour who showed unexpected compassion or a stranger whose brief kindness arrived on a difficult day. You have the ability to become that person for someone else.

Guard your attention carefully. The phone in your pocket is a remarkable invention, but it was never meant to own your thoughts. Look up from the screen from time to time. Watch the sunrise. Walk beneath a sky full of stars. Read books that stretch your mind. Sit with your grandparents and ask about the world they grew up in. The richest experiences in life rarely arrive with a notification.

Do not run away from difficult things. Almost everything worthwhile begins as a struggle. Learning a language, mastering an instrument, understanding mathematics, writing well, building lasting friendships, finding God in private prayer, and developing wisdom all require patience. Difficulty is not always a sign that you are on the wrong road. More often, it is evidence that you are growing.

Never lose your sense of wonder. Keep asking questions. Why does mathematics describe the universe so beautifully? Why does music move us to tears? Why do we find beauty in a sunset or a field of wildflowers? Why does our conscience insist that some things are truly right and others truly wrong? Curiosity is one of the greatest companions of wisdom. The person who never stops asking, 'Why?' never really stops learning. Write down your thoughts in a notebook. One day it may be a book that helps others.

You will fail from time to time. Everyone does. Failure need not become your identity. Some of the strongest, wisest and most compassionate people are those who have stumbled, learned, risen again and kept walking. Your mistakes need not write the final chapter of your story.

Choose your friends carefully. Character has a remarkable way of spreading from one life to another. The people you spend time with will quietly influence the person you become. Seek out those who encourage honesty, wisdom, faithfulness and generosity. As Proverbs reminds us, 'Walk with the wise and become wise.'

Read great books. They allow you to spend time with minds that lived centuries before you. Within their pages you will find companions, teachers and friends whom you may never meet in this life. Books enlarge our world, challenge our assumptions and remind us that every generation wrestles with the same great questions of truth, love, loneliness, suffering and hope.

Above all, remember this: your value does not depend upon your popularity, your appearance, your achievements or the approval of strangers. According to Scripture, every human being is made in the image of God. That means your dignity is something you were given, not something you must earn. Before you accomplish anything remarkable, you already matter.

When I sat in that Glasgow bar all those Christmases ago, I could never have imagined where life would lead me. I did not know the people I would meet, the joys I would experience, the sorrows I would endure or the faith that would anchor me through it all. If I could speak to that younger man now, I would simply tell him, 'Hold on. Life is not finished with you yet.'

That is the greatest encouragement I can offer you.

The world does not simply need more clever people, beautiful people or more successful people. It needs men and women of integrity. It needs people who tell the truth when lying would be easier, who show mercy when anger would be applauded, who remain humble when success arrives and who quietly leave every place a little kinder than they found it.

"Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God."

Corrie Ten Boom

"Chan ann leis a’ chiad bhuille thuiteas a’chraobh."

"It is not with the first stroke that the tree falls."

 Portree Harbour by https://unsplash.com/@breebuddy

I was watching Billy Collins on a YouTube podcast answering the question, “How to be a Poet,”

Oh dear, you may not like the answer; ten thousand hours of reading poetry including the heavies like Milton.

I have an MA Creative Writing Degree, but I have not indulged much in poetry although I like to read it. But like any other endeavour in life like learning a language or playing an instrument or tennis, you need to discipline oneself and do the hours.

The Gaelic proverb reminds one that discipline, persistence and engagement are involved in accomplishing your goals.

Billy Collins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eP9reBY7EwM