Last Saturday, I was teaching an online class and one student who had been very engaged was speaking. She came to an end and I started to respond and she had nor turned her microphone off. A few seconds later, I heard quite loud talk in the background and gradually it got so loud I was finding it hard to get my message across. I then said "X, please turn your microphone off" as politely as I could (and I really understand how easy it is to forget to turn the microphone on or off).
One of her peers initially seemed to write in a blunt way - "X, turn your microphone off" but then softened this with "We can hear your family, darling". Perhaps she had realised that she was verging on rudeness but then mitigated this by an affectively sensitive explanation.
I suspect that tone is very important in these kinds of tutorials and it is easy to emphasise speed through very direct interactions but this additional comment was perhaps important in maintaining a good atmosphere - of course, I do not know exactly what the responses are and whether the later comment was helpful or even needed. It is, however, clear that this was only a comment that could have been made by peers and probably only woman to woman (possibly, but unlikely, woman to man?)