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Cultural Socialization

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Thursday, 13 Mar 2025, 07:04


The one who is gracious to the poor lends to the Lord,

and the Lord  will repay him for his good deed.

 Proverbs 19:7 

(New English Bible).




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We were laying in bed one evening and my wife asked me what was my happiest childhood memory?

It was the day my two friends came and asked if I was coming with them. It was a spring morning, and we took the ferry across to Kelvin to visit the Glasgow Kelvinside museum.

We were there for several hours and on our return, we rubbed our tummies with hunger. A man said, ‘Here’s a half-crown, buy yourselves ice-cream.’

We jumped up and down singing ‘Chips, glorious chips!’ Then… we stopped…went silent. The man told us to buy ice-cream.

But he just smiled, and we jumped up and down again singing ‘Chips, glorious chips!’

And I would have to say, that was my happiest childhood memory; the day the kind man smiled and thought it was okay to buy chips.

 








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Firgun and the Path to Happiness

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Thursday, 6 Mar 2025, 06:56


Firgun (Hebrew)

The act of sharing in or even contributing to someone else's pleasure or fortune, 

with a purely unselfish heart. It is a genuine, 

selfless delight and pride in the accomplishments of others.




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Firgun and the Path to Happiness

In the lexicon of human experience, certain words transcend linguistic boundaries, embodying concepts that offer us a glimpse into the soul of a culture. "Firgun" is one such word, a Hebrew term that means the genuine joy one feels at someone else's happiness or success. This concept, while culturally specific, taps into a universal truth emphasized in the teachings of Jesus: "Love your neighbour as yourself." Yet, in my encounters with various individuals throughout my life, I've observed a stark contrast between those who embody this spirit and those who do not, particularly among those displaying sociopathic tendencies.

Firgun is not merely an act of passive benevolence but an active engagement in celebrating others without envy or self-interest. It's a concept that feels at home in the teachings of Jesus, who championed love, compassion, and empathy towards all. The failure to practice love in this way, especially when it morphs into sociopathic indifference, reveals a troubling pathway toward isolation and unhappiness.

My reflections on firgun and its absence in certain individuals lead me back to life's encounters with those whose behaviours skewed towards sociopathy—a pattern marked not just by a lack of empathy but by a profound self-interest that views other people's successes as threats or non-events. These individuals displayed a chilling detachment from the joys and sorrows of others, encapsulating a life approach antithetical to firgun.

One might argue that sociopathy is an inborn trait, a wiring of the brain that deviates from the norm. However, the behaviours stemming from this lack can often be observed as choices—choices to ignore the happiness of others, choices to manipulate for self-gain, and choices that inevitably lead to relational ruins. The lack of sharing in the happiness of others, correlates strongly with the unhappy outcomes I've witnessed in these lives. Without the capacity or the will to engage in the joy of others, their world becomes a smaller, self-contained echo chamber of dissatisfaction and unfulfillment.

Contrast this with those who practice kindness. These individuals seem to live in a richer, more expansive world—a world where others' victories are celebrated as if they were their own. This worldview not only fosters a positive external environment but also cultivates an internal sense of peace and contentment. There is a profound psychological benefit to this practice, echoing the Christian ideal of loving and valuing others genuinely. The outward expression of firgun often returns to the giver, multiplied and enriched.

From a personal standpoint, embracing this quality has been transformative. Over time, inspired by biblical teachings and the selfless examples of those around me, I began to practice this quality, initially as a discipline, then as a heartfelt approach to life. The change was palpable: relationships deepened, my community ties strengthened, and a profound sense of happiness and fulfilment replaced the hollow echo of my previous discontent.

In conclusion, the spirit of firgun and the teachings of Jesus converge on a fundamental truth about human behaviour: we are designed to live in community, to share in each other's joys, and to love our neighbours wholeheartedly. My experiences have shown me that those who reject this path, especially out of sociopathic inclinations, find themselves walking a lonely road, marked by relational failures and personal despair. In contrast, those who embrace the joy of others discover a life marked by fulfilment and deep, lasting happiness. In the end, it is is not just a word but a way of life, offering a path that aligns closely with the wisdom of loving one's neighbour—an endeavour that, when embraced, leads to the richest of human experiences.

 


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Bienveillance: A Compass for Life

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Edited by Jim McCrory, Friday, 31 Jan 2025, 10:57

You may know the story. Perhaps somewhat hackneyed,

One day, a young girl was walking along a beach, picking up starfish that had been washed ashore and throwing them back into the sea. An older man saw her and said, “There are miles and miles of beach, and hundreds of starfish. You can’t make any difference.”

The girl picked up another starfish, threw it back into the ocean, and replied, “It made a difference to that one.”



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Bienveillance: A Compass for Life

Several years ago, while embarking on my journey through an MA in Creative Writing, I made a heartfelt vow: my writings would always strive to illuminate the brighter aspects of humanity. This promise wasn't about viewing the world through a glass darkly—life, after all, is a complex tapestry of light and shadow. But I was determined that positivity would serve as my guiding principle.

Recently, during a moment of morning reflection, a particular word resonated with me: bienveillance. This elegant French term defies a neat English translation, capturing nuances beyond mere kindness or goodwill—it embodies an initiative-taking, almost vigilant commitment to the welfare of others. Observing the discord often rampant around us, I realized just how scarce this trait has become.

If granted a single wish, it would be for a world infused with this quality. Imagine a society, friends, family, and workmates that prioritizes understanding over judgment, where compassion comes naturally, and actions are taken not solely for personal gain but for the collective good. Longing for such a world isn't naivety; it is, in fact, a vital necessity.

The path to such a society doesn't begin with a desire for others to change but with a personal introspection. How do I embody bienveillance in my daily life? It's straightforward to romanticize the concept, yet quite another to live it out. Am I patient with those who test my patience? Do I offer generosity even when it's inconvenient? Can I see the best in people, even when scepticism seems a safer bet?

Through my writing, I strive to practice such qualities. Writing, I believe, have a unique power to expand our empathy, allowing us to experience lives vastly different from our own. They highlight our common humanity and the unspoken struggles we all face. Even when my narratives delve into darker themes, my aim is to uncover the resilience, love, and hope that persist.

However, writing about kindness is not sufficient—I must also enact it. Recently, I found myself hurrying past someone in obvious need of help. Caught up in my own urgency, I almost ignored the moment. Yet, a nagging thought halted me: "What kind of world do you want, and what are you actively doing to create it?" I paused, turned back, and assisted. The task was minor helping someone buy a meal for the evening.

bienveillance is not an unreachable ideal; it's realized through countless small actions. Each act of kindness, no matter how minor, contributes to a broader transformation. If we all embraced such moments, allowing kindness to interrupt our routines, imagine how transformative that could be.

I often reflect on the Biblical directive to "love your neighbour as yourself." This simple yet profound command requires deep self-reflection, presupposing that we understand and appreciate our own worth enough to know what love truly feels like. It challenges us to extend that same level of compassion outward.

Like the art of writing, this quality of goodwill to others is a skill honed over time—a lifelong pursuit rather than a destination. While I may not witness a utopia within my lifetime, I passionately believe that each gesture of kindness sends ripples through the fabric of society, often in unseen ways.

So, I commit to this: today, I will treat the next person I encounter with the care I hope for in the world. Tomorrow, I will take another step. While human kindness might seem elusive on a grand scale, it's a quality I can nurture within my own life. In doing so, I can inspire others to follow suit, one small step at a time.


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