“They abused me, they hit me! They beat me, they robbed me!” For those who bear such a grudge, hatred never ends.
“They abused me, they hit me! They beat me, they robbed me!” For those who bear no such grudge, hatred has an end.
For never is hatred settled by hate, it’s only settled by love: this is an eternal truth.
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If you find an alert companion, a wise and virtuous friend, then, overcoming all adversities, wander with them, joyful and mindful.
If you find no alert companion, no wise and virtuous friend, then, like a king who flees his conquered realm, wander alone like a tusker in the wilds.
It’s better to wander alone, than have fellowship with fools. Wander alone and do no wrong, at ease like a tusker in the wilds.”
[MN128]