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Let it go!

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Sunday, 4 Sep 2022, 15:02

Let it go!

If you let the past weigh you down, life will come to a halt. Be free, seek help and be happy! Mental Health affects us all.

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Remembrance Day Goodbyes'

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Thursday, 1 Sep 2022, 15:33

Remembrance Day Family

The moment a mother explained to her daughter why she had to go!

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Sheep - Hi

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Sheep

Just crossing a field when they stopped to say hi. A great relaxing stroll in the country which is a great place to ponder, plan and relax.

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What do you think?

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Wednesday, 24 Aug 2022, 11:31

Car

I sat in this car and was surprised at the fuel economy! Should I buy it or do you think I'd get 'board' with it?

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A Beautiful Garden (2)

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A Beautiful Garden 2

This is the same garden and shows one of the many outstanding statues placed in the grounds.

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A Beautiful Garden

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A beautiful garden

This amazing garden in Vancouver was beautiful and inspiring.

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Motivation

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Motivation sign

I have this sign in my kitchen and it motivates me every day.

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Remembrance

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Friday, 19 Aug 2022, 08:17

Remembrance Day Statue Canada

They shall not grow old, as we that are left grow old;

Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.

At the going down of the sun and in the morning

we will remember them.

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The King of the Hill

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Chicken - King of the Hill

I was out walking in the countryside by Northallerton, North Yorkshire and came across a Chicken farm with about two thousand chickens roaming around. This chicken saw me with my camera and walked up a Hill, posing on top until I took some pictures. I have called it 'King of the Hill' and hope you like it.

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Sushi in Canada

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Sushi

I visited family in Vancouver, Canada and tried Sushi for the first time. The fish was vibrant in colour, fresh out of the water and delicious!

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Smile - Todays Joke

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Smile Joke

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Nature - A gaggle of Goslings

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Ducklings

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Daily Joke

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Mosquito joke

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Contemplating my life with PTSD

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Wednesday, 31 Aug 2022, 07:30

Woods

Coming to terms with my PTSD has and is being a difficult journey. Taking time to stroll around Decoy country park in Newton Abbot, Devon brings you onto the woodland paths. Here the world appears different, squirrels run about playing, birds are singing, bees are collecting pollen and wasps buzz around annoying people who walk by. My thoughts turn to how lucky my wife and I are, living on a hill that overlooks Newton Abbot and the estuary. Beautiful views from all angles which make you smile whatever the time of day or night. I wish it were the same when I try to sleep, but the flashbacks, severe tinnitus, and terrible nightmares haunt my sleep while the pains from fibromyalgia shoot through my body. I awake completely exhausted and so another day begins. My wife, family and friends help me through each, day and the Bachelor of Laws (Honours) LLB study keeps my mind active and the terrible memories at bay. Thankful for everything and everyone around me, life goes on!

Smile and the world smiles with you.

Make it a habit to be positive, to be happy, to enjoy every day.

Make someone else feel special today.

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless! 

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Relax

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Frog sunbathing

This makes me feel like chilling out every time I see this frog in my garden.

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Today's joke

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Wednesday, 10 Aug 2022, 19:20


My mate set me up on 

a blind date.

He said,

"She's a lovely lass,

but there's something

you should know...

She's expecting a baby."

I felt like a right prat

waiting in the pub

wearing nothing but a

nappy!

Nappy Man

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Joke of the day

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Two Irishmen talking

Paddy and Murphy were sitting down

doing a crossword.

Murphy asks,

"How do you spell paint?"

Paddy replies,

"What colour?"


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Mans Best Friend 'Bess'

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Tuesday, 9 Aug 2022, 08:32

Springer Spaniel 'Bess'

'Bess'

Always enthusiastic, the English Springer Spaniel is an energetic dog with a friendly, loyal and affectionate nature. They love the water and are great to have as family pets, but need plenty of training and lots of exercise to stay out of mischief.

I took this photograph of 'Bess' in Osmotherley country park, North Yorkshire as she looked at me with her loving eyes. Sadly no longer with us but brought so much love and laughter to so many.

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Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Thursday, 11 Aug 2022, 07:57

PTSD HELP

Overview - Post-traumatic stress disorder

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events.

Symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Someone with PTSD often relives the traumatic event through nightmares and flashbacks, and may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt.

They may also have problems sleeping, such as insomnia, and find concentrating difficult.

These symptoms are often severe and persistent enough to have a significant impact on the person's day-to-day life.

Causes of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Any situation that a person finds traumatic can cause PTSD.

These can include:

  • serious road accidents
  • violent personal assaults, such as sexual assault, mugging or robbery
  • serious health problems
  • childbirth experiences

PTSD can develop immediately after someone experiences a disturbing event, or it can occur weeks, months or even years later.

PTSD is estimated to affect about 1 in every 3 people who have a traumatic experience, but it's not clear exactly why some people develop the condition and others do not.

When to get medical advice

It's normal to experience upsetting and confusing thoughts after a traumatic event, but most people improve naturally over a few weeks.

You should see a GP if you or your child are still having problems about 4 weeks after the traumatic experience, or if the symptoms are particularly troublesome.

If necessary, your GP can refer you to mental health specialists for further assessment and treatment.

How post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is treated

PTSD can be successfully treated, even when it develops many years after a traumatic event.

Treatment depends on the severity of symptoms and how soon they occur after the traumatic event. 

Any of the following treatment options may be recommended:

  • watchful waiting – monitoring your symptoms to see whether they improve or get worse without treatment
  • antidepressants – such as paroxetine or sertraline
  • psychological therapies – such as trauma-focused cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR)

You can refer yourself directly to a psychological therapies service.


Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

People who repeatedly experience traumatic situations, such as severe neglect, abuse or violence, may be diagnosed with complex PTSD.

Complex PTSD can cause similar symptoms to PTSD and may not develop until years after the event.

It's often more severe if the trauma was experienced early in life, as this can affect a child's development.

Complex PTSD - Post-traumatic stress disorder

You may have complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) if you have some of the symptoms of PTSD, and also have problems with managing your emotions and having relationships.

Symptoms of complex PTSD

The symptoms of complex PTSD are similar to symptoms of PTSD, but may also include:

  • feelings of worthlessness, shame and guilt
  • problems controlling your emotions
  • finding it hard to feel connected with other people
  • relationship problems, like having trouble keeping friends and partners

Causes of complex PTSD

Complex PTSD may be caused by experiencing recurring or long-term traumatic events, for example:

  • childhood abuse or neglect
  • domestic violence
  • sexual abuse
  • torture, sex trafficking, or slavery
  • war

You may also be more likely to develop complex PTSD if:

  • you experienced trauma at a young age
  • you were harmed by someone close to you who you trusted
  • you were unable to escape the trauma

Treating complex PTSD

If you have complex PTSD, you may be offered therapies used to treat PTSD, such as trauma-focused cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR).

You'll also be offered treatment for other problems you may have, such as depression or alcohol addiction.

You should be offered ongoing support after your treatment ends.

The mental health charity Mind has more information about complex PTSD

Overview - Post-traumatic stress disorder - NHS (www.nhs.uk)

Complex PTSD - Post-traumatic stress disorder - NHS (www.nhs.uk)

Help for Veterans with PTSD

COMBAT STRESS - Mental health services for veterans | Combat Stress

Treating PTSD in the Armed Forces - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)

Help for Heroes - UK Armed Forces & Military Veterans Charity | Help for Heroes

I have included as much information and links to help as possible and hope that this will help.

A great place to meet and chat with other veterans is at The Armed Forces & Veterans Breakfast Clubs which are World wide and can be found at Armed Forces & Veterans Breakfast Clubs – We are the Official Armed Forces and Veterans Breakfast Club (afvbc.net)

I am the Chairman of the Newton Abbot, Devon branch which is held on the first Saturday of every month from 10.00 am to 11.30 am. The address is, The Royal British Legion Club, 2 Marsh Road, Newton Abbot, TQ12 2PX. Find us on Facebook (3) Newton Abbot Armed Forces & Veterans Breakfast Club | Facebook
The breakfast is eat as much as you want and includes tea, coffee, toast, fruit juice at a cost of £7. I look forward to meeting you.

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Inspirational 'Quote'

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Black Belt

Nothing is as hard as it looks,

Everything is more rewarding than you expect,

And if anything can go right, it will,

And at the best possible moment!

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Bumble Bee - Love, Magic and Romance

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This photograph was taken in Osmotherley Country Park, North Yorkshire. The Bee, like fairies, are more often than not considered to be guardians of the natural world, eternally linked to love, magic, and romance. 

Bumble Bee collecting pollen.

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Hope, Renewal, and Rebirth - The Robin

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I took this photograph in my front garden, inspired by the majestic pose, musical chirp and pure beauty of this lovely Robin.

A Robin 

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Thank you in many languages

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Friday, 5 Aug 2022, 14:37

Thank you in many languages

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'Success - A World of Dreams'

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Friday, 5 Aug 2022, 12:34

Dreams

'Success - A World of Dreams'

"Our greatest glory is not, in never falling, but in rising every time we fall"

Tunnel vision is what we all fall into when we fail to see the possibilities surrounding every challenge, success or result. We should all allow our thoughts to expand and to see, "Outside the Box." 

Our lives are full of wonderful things which we either see or we don't see. Keeping our minds open to accept the fantastic world around us will help us to acknowledge, appreciate and soak up these hidden wonders.

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The Past Refuses To Let Go Of Me!

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Edited by Eliot Wayne Caryl Kay, Wednesday, 31 Aug 2022, 07:32

Let Go of Me!

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